Is Self-Care Being Selfish?

In the world of “go, go, go,” many of us are trying to juggle more tasks than are manageable each day. This makes it far too easy to neglect self-care. We’re so intent on proving ourselves – on doing everything,and doing it best – that we run ourselves ragged to stay ahead of the game. When this mentality becomes the norm, we may find ourselves stressed, anxious, restless, or even physically ill. At this point, we face greater disadvantages than we would have if we'd only carved out some time each day for self-care. From this perspective, self-care is the furthest thing from selfish – it’s actually selfless.

Self-care looks a little different for everyone. For some people, it may be a hike through the woods on a beautiful day, or a long soak in a bubble bath at night. For others, it might mean practicing meditation, mindfulness, or prayer. Some additional options include watching a favorite Netflix show, reading a good book, or enjoying a social outing. Whatever your ideal outlet is, make timefor that activity each day – even if it’s only half an hour. You’ll feel more energized and motivated to return to your work, and more likely to get a good night’s rest.

Just as you realize it’s important to meet deadlines, complete projects, spend time with family, and prioritize obligations, it’s necessary to rewire your brain to recognize “me time” as essential. Rather than thinking of self-care as superfluous, or as a conditional reward, learn to think of it as non-negotiable. Even when you think you’re too busy, there is usually some window of time you can find to unplug and decompress. Your work and obligations will still be there afterward, and you’ll be better equipped to handle them.

No matter who is depending on you for what, it is notselfish to prioritize your mental health. In fact, making time for yourself isn't likely to detract from your work, or eat into the time you’re expected to give your boss, spouse, child, or friend. Think about it: would you encourage the people you love to forego their own sanity as they made endless compromises for everyone? Or, would you encourage them to step away from stressors, returning when they are well-rested? You’re probably far more compassionate with your loved ones than you are with yourself.

It’s difficult to be productive or charitable when you’ve stretched yourself too thin. This applies to all areas of life, including work, home, and social obligations. Learn to say "no," kindly but firmly, to things that don't serve you, fulfill you, or bring you happiness. People will overstep if you don't set boundaries, so don't be afraid to voice them! Making time for relaxation means you’ll be more inclined to give your all for others, because you’ll have more of yourself (and the best of yourself) to give!